A genuine romantic relationship provides many couples with the ideal opportunity to have many of the essential emotional needs of each partner be met. But problems can occur when one or both parties feels that those needs are no longer being met. Being happy together takes work, patience, empathy, kindness and a willingness to challenge yourself to become a better you.
Relationships can be so difficult to maintain. They can become troubled if either person fails to take care their own emotional needs and the emotional needs of their partner. This can lead to unhappiness as well as social, emotional, or mental health problems.
It’s unrealistic in a romantic relationship to expect all of your emotional needs to be met. Marriage problems can often occur if one person is too dependent on the other. If you’re feeling that your needs aren’t being met, this is a huge warning sign.
Unrealistic expectations can lead to resentment and disappointment in the relationship. But your view of exactly what can be classed as “realistic” is likely not to match your partner’s. That is both the problem and the solution. Analyzing your perception of the problems will lead you to make the right decisions about overcoming the problems in the relationship.
Following are 25 common issues that can cause problems in romantic relationships.
- Any kind of cheating, including emotional infidelity, financial infidelity, one-night stands, online relationships including ‘sexting,’ and both long-term and short-term affairs.
- Sexual problems, especially loss of libido (both male and female) and uncertainty about your sexuality or your partner’s sexuality.
- Significant differences in beliefs and core values.
- Change in life stages.
- Traumatic or life-changing events, such as the birth of a child, the death of a child or close family member, or a move to a new home or location.
- Long-term stress related to employment, a physical or mental illness, financial problems or infertility.
- A feeling of boredom in or with the relationship.
- Dealing with a jealous partner
- Issues arising from a blended family.
- Domestic violence, including verbal or physical abuse.
- Feeling like you shouldn’t have ever gotten together at all.
- One partner shirking duties related to finances, health, children, or other issues.
- Feeling like you’ve outgrown each other or have changed too significantly to continue on together.
- Addictions, including substance abuse, alcoholism, gambling, sex or anything that has become an unhealthy obsession or preoccupation.
- An excessive reliance on social media.
- A lack of emotional support during difficult times.
- Manipulation of relationships with other family members or friends.
- A lack of communication about important matters in the relationship.
- A poor division of chores and tasks, or a one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks.
- A perceived lack of concern, care and attentiveness. A feeling that the relationship is one-sided. One partner is a narcissist.
- Significant personal disappointments or traumas have changed the dynamics of the relationship.
- Long-term depression or other mental health issues by one or both parties.
- Significant differences in opinion regarding the discipline of children or a lack of support with child-rearing.
- Long-term stress related to one or both party’s unwillingniss to address the problesm in the relationship.
- An unsupportive partner during pregnancy, or significant problems after the birth of a baby.
Couples facing any of these problems relating to their particular relationship are encouraged to seek some form of counseling from a licensed therapist to get the help you need. It’s easy to connect with an online relationship therapist. But it would likely be more helpful to contact a local professional therapist and try to set up a meeting in person.
Remember: your relationship problems are never too silly or too complicated, or too small or to big, to seek help from a licensed therapist. They are there to help you!